Jul 15, 2013

The Monday pep talk | Change your words, change your world

Do you want to improve your chances of happiness and success? Most of us want to. According to the book Change your words, change your world by Andrea Gardner it is all very simple, by just changing the words we normally use in life. With these five tricks it is possible to immediately change the results of what you want. 

Story: A beggar barely makes an impact on passers-by with a sign that reads "I´m blind, please help". A woman eventually picks up the sign and changes it to "It´s a beautiful day and I can´t see". Of course, the beggars get a lot more donations. When asking the woman what she did she tells him; "I wrote the same thing in different words".

- by changing the words we normally use

1. Speak slowly, double the impact
Speaking more slowly can have dramatic effects. First, slowing down will give you inner judgement time to assess what you´re going to say. Second, it will make you easier to understand. Pausing momentarily between words - as public speakers do- helps you make your point dynamically and memorably.

2. Turn negatives into positives
For the talk with the boss it´s better, according to Gardner, to use words like "What I find inspiring is..." Not only will it make you feel better, but also promote happiness and positive feelings in the person you´re speaking to, and get you the results you hope for.

3. Remember how words make you feel
Words just don´t have straight definitions; they also have nuances. When you´re talking about money for example, replace words like "debt" or "poor" with words that evoke positive financial experiences, like "I have a wealth of experience that enriches the team".

4. Replace "BUT" with "AND"
But is the ultimate limiting word, it´s just an excuse for not moving forward. Try changing the sentence from "I´d like to lose weight, BUT I hate excercise" (meaning impossible to lose weight I might just give up) to "I´d like to lose weight AND I hate excersise" (ok, how do I solve this problem, maybe doing excerise that I really like). The AND puts you in the driving seat and encourages action rather than impassivity.

5. Practice speaking with confidence
Borrow techniques from public speakers and summon your own positive thoughts around words. Just like a stage actor who's learned a script, summoning up practised speech is always easier.

On a personal level I need to really practice on # 1 since being a real fast talker (I´m surprised I haven´t got a commercial deal yet, I can fit in any amount of words in any time:) and the #4 is a "new" one for me that I immediately liked.

The initial story is also a short video, viewed over 14 million times on youtube. Watch it here!


Text source: Easy Living UK May 2012

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  1. Wow, did you ever write the perfect post for how I was feeling today! I am going to watch this ASAP!
    Thank you!
    The Relished Roost

    1. So happy to have you here Karolyn, glad I could write a post for you:) xo Caroline

  2. Tack för tipset! måste jag kolla in. Kram Nilla

  3. Monday pep talk tycker jag du ska ha varje måndag :)
    Jag pratar ganska långsamt och tycker det är jättejobbigt med kulsprutemänniskor. Min hjärna kopplar lite långsamt tror jag.
    Tvåan är jag nog ganska ok på.
    Jag är verkligen en 'men'-användare. Där måste jag skärpa mig.
    Ska spana in videon. Mycket pra inspiration

  4. Ja jag har tänkt att ha Monday Peptalk varje måndag, började förra veckan:) haha men jag känner att jag behöver det själv och blir såå glad över att du läser och kommenterar! Jag tror nog vi skulle förstå varandra, fast jag pratar fort, vi har ju alltid Mauro:) Kram Caroline

  5. Such an inspiring post and wonderful tips! I'm definitely going to put these to use :) xoxo

  6. I love your advices!!

    I can tell you that they are true and that they work.

    I typically compensate for the fact that English is not my first language by talking faster than normal. It just does not work that well! I will take up on your advice and focus on the paste again.

    A lot of the most successful colleagues of mine use positive words instead of negative. The generally appear calmer, happier AND they smile a lot ;)

    I spoke in front of 100 people not too long ago. It was scary but I did it and I got a lot of positive feedback. It was such a kick!

    Thank you for sharing!


    1. Thx for sharing about your colleagues Lotta, that is always interesting and inspiring to here. Let´s copy paste:)
      I have no problem imagining that you were awsome to listen to for those lucky 100 people!
      xo Caroline